Try to become  vegetarian  and make your child(ren) also follow the practice of vegetarianism. World over people  are changing to vegetarianism and it is good for  health. At least during working days,  let  the  breakfast and lunch be vegetarian. Let your family members sit  together for  atleast one  meal a day, preferably super.  Let it be an enjoyable experience.  We do not  know  how long we are  blessed to dine  together with our family members.  Other times, make it  a point that the mother should  serve the food to child, if she is in home.  Sit with  them till their eating is over.  Discuss positive things  with your child(ren)  while they eat.
 
Occasionally  bless them by putting your right palm  on their forehead . You don’t know how long  god has given this  privilege to  serve them the food and bless them. Let you enjoy their company for discussing and sharing their  joy  and sorrow.   Let they learn the putra dharma of son and   putri dharma of  daughter from you. Give them guidance with smooth, soft words  and conversation and  not in a  teaching style.   Your child(ren) should  get all the modern knowledge  from anywhere  and everywhere. They should get the value based knowledge mainly from you and family members.  The modern knowledge are like bricks for taking the  building into  heights  and the value based knowledge are like  the cement which gives beauty, strength  and  durability for building  and for our life.  With the value based knowledge you  and your children can make the life beautiful, durable and strong.  The way you  treat your parents  will be learned by your children and they copy and translate it to  treat you when you become old.  What they see and learn from you  remain in the  mind  more than what they learn  by reading or listening to advise.
 
Let you be the  proud parents  so that  your children remember you for ever  as the real owners of their body and mind.  You remember them till your last breath. They should also remember you till their last breath. They should not become a burden for you when they are young. Then  you will  also  not become a burden for them when you are old.   Let them think/ feel  that they are fortunate to have  parents like you . You say  at times that you are fortunate to have child(ren)  like them/him/her.  The glory of the family  has to come from

When your children  are studying,   motivate them  with good words  and  appreciation.   Congratulate them for the efforts , they are taking  in the studies  and doing homework.  Discuss the method of  better learning , memorizing  and writing the examination,  from your experience.  Also spend  few seconds or minutes  at intervals with them  so that  the learning  can be made  less strenuous. They will enjoy  the  reading, writing, and  programming the studies.  Make it sure that your  presence  change their moods to positive .  Whenever you  get opportunities, remind them that  there are  positives and negatives  and  successes and failures in the studies also. Directly or indirectly  familiarize them with the positives and negatives  through your experiences, stories and incidents in the life of great men. Never create a pessimistic  vision or outlook. Never give  a feeling that you don’t have faith in your  children, in their words, in their   working trends, etc.   Teach them any fine  arts, literary  exercises  so that when they get bored in the  usual  studies , they can change/shift for few hours/ mins.  to this extra curricular activities.   Motivate and nurture the  extra curricular activities like  sports, music, dance, musical instruments, etc. Your children should have something special and unique.  Allow that quality to grow  and let he/she be known in the world through that good quality.  This  unique  quality should become part of his personality. 

Give  training  at times  in the kitchen work also. Making tea, making simple  curries, cooking rice  etc., should be  taught/known to them.  You have  to give them modern knowledge  and also the knowledge to live in this  world without depending others  too much.  Teach them how to use wet grinder, mixie, washing machine, keeping the kitchen clean and dry, arranging the vessels, etc.   Give them good  responsibility  and increase the quality and quantity of the  responsibility,  with their  age. Let them commit mistakes, you correct  it. Let  them do addition, deletion, modification and correction on your suggestions and guidance. Give them  responsibility and freedom. Never make  fun of them or  their activities or achievements, even though they are of low quality, never belittle them, never  degrade them individually or in presence of others, never go beyond  a level for appreciating them in presence of  others, never flatter or exaggerate their qualities and qualifications. 

Critically and positively evaluate and  estimate  and  guide them.   Never keep in your mind  and repeat through words  the  negatives of your children  as though it is   a serious crime.  Never use in your life the following  comments  to  your  children … “you will never improve…you don’t deserve it…you don’t have the  capacity to do it…I am sure you will fail.. I do not  have faith in you….I don’t trust you…. You are always like this  and never improve whatever I say to you… it  is my fate that I got a child like you…. Your  younger brother is far better than you… I don’t believe that you passed the exam… you are not using  your  real ability....... .this time luckily you passed the exam…next time I am sure you  are not going to win…it is not because of your effort you got the pass mark… it merely luck…how many times I have told you… you still are in the same  bad company…you deserve this shock…if you want to study, study otherwise go to hell…  I am fed up with you….do whatever you want to do….don’t ask me why and what…  I don’t bother about you…  you need not study for  showing me… I don’t  want to see what you are doing ….. I shall prove that you are useless… I shall verify your words   and ask  your friend….I shall prove that you are  wrong… I shall enquire about you to your teacher…. I shall not give lunch today, if you are not doing so… I will teach you a lesson.... .I know you are crooked……!  Dear parents  you know the consequences of what  you are  doing  by   telling  the  above  words to your own children.. Don’t do it 
 

(Dr.Gopalakrishnan  from The Indian Institute of Scientific Heritage).

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